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It's been said many time. Countless times.

All we need is more love.

To heal our nation. To heal the Earth. To raise healthy children. To stop war. To stop gun violence. To stop bullying. To treat each other equally. It sounds really easy. SIMPLE. And it is. Unless... We find ourselves lacking in love for ourselves. As the saying goes..."You are what you eat." Or "You are what you think." Well, there are a ton of us with hurts and wounds that have painted our lives, colored our ability to honestly, truthfully and completely love ourselves. We instead think... I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy of love. I don't deserve more. Maybe we lived with years of criticism. Maybe we were not encouraged to be ourselves. Maybe the colored lives of our parents affected our own. Maybe awful stuff happened and you're doing the best that you can. Maybe the mistakes you've made have talked you into believing lies. Maybe the relationships you've had haven't been all that healthy and have colored your beliefs. Well, guess what? It can be different. Today. Tomorrow. Right now.

NEWS FLASH: YOU ARE FREAKING AWESOME.

You know how I know?! Because I said so. Because that's what I believe in. Everyone is created in beauty. For beauty. For love. To make life crazy awesome. To do something meaningful.

There exists a strong, whole and vibrant part of ourselves, deep down, that has never been marred, hurt or torn.

A complete part that is aching to sing and shine.

If you're needing to reset and just find more of your own MOJO, try these three simple things.

• Stop trying to be perfect.
  Stop criticizing yourself for being less than perfect.  Hey what I see in you is perfectness.   Always do your best, but not reaching perfection is not failure.  Don't let anyone's expectations of you put any pressure on you. Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.
• Stop comparing yourself to others.
  Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, good height, a good physique or intelligence, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous.
  
  A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world.
  
  Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love.
• Be who you really are.
  In order to love yourself, you have to stop loving the person you wish you were and love the person you actually are instead. We can try and pretend to be someone that we're not, but in the end that only hurts us and the facade can't stay up forever. Just be the person that you are and learn to love yourself just like that.

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If you paint with only a couple of colors all the time you miss your rainbow.

I disagree to that blanket statement. Seems so...black and white. It really doesn't acknowledge that you might be the pain in the arse in the situation. Or that the relationship is "meant to be". That you are both there to grow and learn. Maybe the relationship should change or evolve, but to just throw it out...You get uncomfortable, you don't feel good, you're the pain, they are the pain, you bale, they bale, you take your un-evolving baggage with you and shade your next relationship with the same color.

Life is shaded with a PLETHRA of experiences to make life VIBRANT.

The last month: my person challenge; to live fully, gain the gifts, let go of whats not meant to stay. Running a race that I WORKED hard for and rocked out. My dog getting cancer, putting her down, burying her. The family experience of that. Years of hard work paying off and finally having my family reunited. Asking for something and receiving it, on my time table interestingly enough. Sadness of my wonderful mentor moving, acknowledging that it's time for me to be more of a big girl. Letting go of a relationship that wasn't nurturing my heart, wanting to make sure that I wasn't baling, that I didn't needed to stick longer. Having a relationship with mentor and friend, where one has discord and the other not. Accepting that my mother is who she is, not baling and not being too attached, but living the relationship fully non-the-less, on some terms that I don't quite understand yet, but that's ok. Working through a shoulder injury, the pain, frustration and blah blah blah. Having a ton of fun with my kids. Really loving life, being SUPER DUPER EXCITED! Putting my biz hat back on and building some momentum. I really didn't back down from fully living any of these experiences. I tried to not get so attached to one experience, one color, letting that shade the rest. It was tough, but once through it...WHOOOO RAW! It's healthy to have relationships of all different kinds. Happy. Business. Strictly formal. Have agreed to disagree. Not getting along. Loving. Discord. We learn from them all. I want to be careful of "oh I don't align with that person so out they go". Perhaps with a bit of patience and understanding. We shine with our strongest colors, but diminish the others. So more of a blue rainbow. Or a pink one. The world/life/relationship are always changing. This is our playing ground to learn, find ourselves, change ourselves, find things...If we bale, work so hard to make live comfortable...we miss out. We get stagnate. Stale. Gray.

Don't miss your rainbow. (keep the banana peel, maybe the squirrel will eat it)

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