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How “obstacles” leads to Resilience

What if I told you that “obstacles and how you handle them leads to RESILIENCE? πŸ’₯πŸ’―πŸ‘ŠπŸ»

What are “obstacles”. Things that get in the way. Duh. Coach BK. For example, my spouse isn’t supportive, my job is too hectic, I focus on my kids too much, I don’t make my workouts a priority, I don’t make me a priority. I self sabatage. I don’t play very well. I procrastinate because I don’t really want to work hard. I procrastinate because I don’t want to catch up on all that I lost. I just don’t want to. I am tired. I didn’t sleep well. I can’t get to the gym.

Are there two different kinds of obstacles. Excuses and legitimate things that get in the way that we really didn’t create ourselves.

EXCUSES and BS stuff … like not planning and packing our things when we watched 3 episodes of the 100.

LEGIT things …. like the weather and the pool schedule. Or our spouse not helping when I’m doing my part.

If you want to hit the EXCUSES and BS HEAD ON, continue to read on.

  • Look at it. Write it down. And ask yourself. WHY. Why didn’t I do that. And don’t take “I don’t know” for an answer. Ask enough and strong enough until you get a heart felt answer. That might come with a long sigh, tear, a curse word or head down kind of reaction. Truth.
  • Write that down. Without negative words or thoughts. Just write it down.
  • Then look at it in a loving and honest way, like you were trying to figure out why the faucet leaked, very objective without a lot of emotions. Problem solve why. Without judgement. “My job is really stressful and how I’m responding to the stress is stealing all my energy.” “The lack of support from my spouse makes me sad and causes me to throw a mild pity party.” “I have too much on my plate and I just don’t have the energy.” “I have too much on my plate and I’m making a big deal out of it all and thats taking up too much of my energy.” “I am not good enough to prioritize to put me first, if I’m not important, why would I come first, or 2nd or …”

The LEGIT obstacles you have to be creative and kinda reasonable.

For this group of obstacles, health conditions, logistically things, injuries, adulting duties … you have to figure out how bad to you want your goal. Is the juice worth the squeeze and if there is a way to adjust fire. For example, can I do swim strength workouts instead of swimming in a pool because the pool schedule is really unreasonable and gets in the way of family time.

ON THE DAILY : WHAT TO DO

  1. Awareness is key. KING.
  2. Writing it down somehow is QUEEN.
  3. Being honest and kind. Objective and real.
  4. Breath into it, work to take a moment, get calm and aligned with your purpose and power words if you have them
  5. Write out WHY. Ask until you get TRUTH
  6. Be kind and objective and see about adjusting fire.
  7. Work to write a different story. If it’s a EXCUSE/BS thing that is getting in the way, write out what the ROCKSTAR version of you would do and how it would feel. Write a new store. OWN IT. Practice it.
  8. If you get stuck, share with someone else THAT HAS SIMILAR GOALS OR ROLLS LIKE YOU DO OR WANT TO (clears her throat, share with your coach)
  9. Get creative and try other things if it’s a LEGIT, you don’t have a lot of control over the obstacle. Like jobs/bosses/spouses/kids.
  10. Explore. Repeat if it works. If it doesn’t try again. And then explore how to adjust a bit and try again. Do not quit.
  11. Be Patient. Let the written words sit for a day if it doesn’t come together all at once. Let your heart and soul solve some of it. Impatience can push us out of this magic.

THIS LEADS TO RESILIENCE

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Vital Benefits of Alternate Nostril Breathing

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Alternate nostril breathing is a yogic breath control practice. In Sanskrit, it’s known asΒ nadi shodhana pranayama. This translates as β€œsubtle energy clearing breathing technique.”
This type of breath work can be done as part of a yoga or meditation practice. Alternate nostril breathing can also be done as its own practice to help you quiet and still your mind.

BENEFITS - the quick list
Alternate nostril breathing may help to:

  • Balance the body energetically
  • Relax your body and mind
  • Reduce anxiety
  • Heal from stress
  • Promote overall well-being

BENEFITS - the SUPER cool stuff

  • It improves attention and fine-motor coordination/performance.
  • It activates the parasympathetic nervous system and reduces blood pressure.
  • Lowers stress and improves cardiovascular functionOne of the main benefits of alternate nostril breathing is that it may lower stress. A 2013 study found that people who practiced alternate nostril breathing lowered their perceived stress levels.
  • Improves lung function and respiratory enduranceYogic breathing practices may improve lung function and respiratory endurance. A small 2017 study examined the effects of pranayama practice on the lung functions of competitive swimmers and found that it had a positive effect on respiratory endurance.  Improved respiratory endurance may also improve athletic performance.  The swimmers in the study did alternate nostril breathing in addition to two other breathing practices for 30 minutes, five days a week for one month. Larger, more in-depth studies are needed to expand upon these findings.
  • Lowers heart rateLowering your heart rate can help to promote cardiovascular health. According to a 2006 study, engaging in a slow yogic breath such as alternative nostril breathing may significantly decrease heart rate and average breathing rhythm.
    Alternate nostril breathing may be a useful method to help you lower your heart rate in the moment, too.
  • Promotes well-beingAlternate nostril breathing may enhance overall health and well-being. It has also been shown to have a positive effect on mental health by reducing stress and anxiety.​
https://youtu.be/kDidlMoDv0o

How To Do It
Focus on keeping your breath slow, smooth, and continuous. Focusing on your breath will help you to remember where you are in the cycle. You should be able to breathe easily throughout the practice.
To practice alternate nostril breathing:

  • Sit in a comfortable position with your legs crossed.
  • Place your left hand on your left knee.
  • Lift your right hand up toward your nose.
  • Exhale completely and then use your right thumb to close your right nostril.
  • Inhale through your left nostril and then close the left nostril with your fingers.
  • Open the right nostril and exhale through this side.
  • Inhale through the right nostril and then close this nostril.
  • Open the left nostril and exhale through the left side.
  • This is one cycle.
  • Continue for up to 5 minutes.
  • Always complete the practice by finishing with an exhale on the left side.

Useful and Research Links
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5660749/
https://www.calmwithyoga.com/increase-vital-energy-alternate-nostril-breathing/
https://theyogaspace.co.uk/blog/PostId/261/yogis-ahead-of-science-one-nostril-breathing-determines-how-you-feel
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